How To Tell Someone You Have HIV

Disclosing to others about your status can be difficult. The good news is that the more practice you get the easier it will become. There are many misconceptions that sway the way people feel about HIV. HIV is not a death sentence. It’s important to remember that you are not your status, and your worth is not tied to it. It is also important to learn as much about HIV as you can to be prepared to educate your family, friends, and partners about the disease.

How To Tell Friends & Family

Telling your family and close friends can give you another lifeline of support. It’s important to be honest and open. However, you are not required to tell anyone that you don’t feel comfortable with. Beyond additional support, your family and friends can be your medical advocates.  They can speak up for you to make sure your wishes are carried out if you are not able to make those decisions. Statistically, people with the support of their families have a better outcome with HIV Treatment in Hampton Roads.

Telling New Partners

People differ in opinions about when the best time to disclose to a new partner is that you are HIV positive. The idea of rejection after disclosing to someone new can be scary.  Some people suggest that you should tell someone when you first meet them. Others recommend disclosing when the topic of sex comes up. Whatever method you chose, it’s best to be upfront. Remember, the more you disclose, the easier it will become.

Telling Long-Term Partners

Just like family and friends, longtime partners can offer additional support. It’s important to educate them about being undetectable and how they can reduce their chances of getting HIV. Be prepared to talk to them about PrEP and the importance of safe sex with a condom. Create an ongoing HIV testing plan so that they can know their status. Most importantly, be patient and listen.

How To Tell Former Partners

Talking to former partners can be challenging. Once you test positive, you should let past partners know that they could have been exposed. It is crucial that they know so that they can be tested. Remember, early intervention is important for the best outcomes with HIV treatment. If the person has a history of violence or if you are afraid of how they will react, please reach out to us with help disclosing. We want you to be safe.

MASS has lots of resources to help you disclose to your family, partners, and friends. Our case managers can help you to put together a plan on how to tell, when to tell, and what to say. If you have been threatened or are scared, we can also direct you to other agencies that help with disclosure. Contact us to learn more.